I support kushboo fully and stand by her views. It is sad that other than couple of eminent people, none from Tamil Nadu dared to come forward in her support. I believe, to indulge in sex, marriage is not prerequisite and most importantly one should take necessary precautions, so they wont contract any sexual disease or virus. Certainly everyone cannot be expected to remain virgin until the time of their marriage!, In fact, in classical sangam poetry, In kuruntogai many poems discuss about premarital sex, so people who are protesting themselves are alienated from their Tamil culture!.
Every person is entitled to have their opinion and if there is any difference of opinions, then they could have expressed in mature fashion. What these people are doing on the pretext of upholding Tamil culture exposes their intention to torment her and cause emotional trauma. This cannot be done without having vendetta against her. My understanding for this vehement protest is, that her recent campaign against dalit director Thangkar Bachan for his derogatory remark against Tamil actresses in general, has irked some people and specially Dalit Panthers party and since then they are waiting for right opportunity to get even with her. It was said, that Thangkar was upset with daily tantrums of the actress, who he was shooting in his film. In frustration, he gave a statement which said, that "he knows what these actresses do, to excel their career and they almost prostitute themselves to reach the position they enjoy now". Kushboo has spearheaded campaign against him and made him to apologize publicly and also forced him to prostrate before group of actresses. Some felt that she had overdone it and humiliated Thangkar in this process, Specially when Director has already repented on his remark, So these people were waiting for right opportunity to teach her a lesson.
Whatever the case is, she certainly does not deserve none of these actions.
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i strongly believe everyone is entitled to their opinion.. if kushboo says the sky's black, does it become black overnight???? y the hell is all this fuss n hype arising at all??? doesnt make sense.. ppl jus love controversy.. even if its not actually controversial ;)
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Priya,
//if kushboo says the sky's black, does it become black overnight????//
If her observation is based on logic & facts then, why not?
//y the hell is all this fuss n hype arising at all???//
Yeah, me too wonder the same. Why we have difficult time in accepting that some of us indulge in premarital sex and whats the big deal in advicing on safe sex!. Why to take refuge of some culture to register their objections?
//ppl jus love controversy.. even if its not actually controversial ;)//
Yeah! specially they love to burn her effigy, blocking roads and making so much halla gulla that, kushboo needed to cut short her foreign trip, which she was enjoying with her family and made to tender a apology on national TV, while sobbing profusely.
Or am i the one who is making this small thing a big issue!?. Darn me :P
It is her own opinion, we are living in democratic country, and we have all rights to tell our opinion. If the Dalit always do strike for Tamil culture, who told them to read English magazine, and then jump up and down, he told like this and that.
Nice written.
Shuuro:
I wrote this in Sen's blog:
As a bachelor, I would agree with what Khushboo said but when I become a husband/parent, I will strongly disagree with her. :-) But any of these have nothing to do with the moral policing like what's going on now. She didn't hurt anyone personally, she just aired her opinion on something. We have freedom to agree or disagree with her but we have no right to attack her personally and this court thing doesn't make any sense.
Suppose I love someone and if I'm definitely going to marry her, I think there is nothing wrong in being physically involved in that relationship. In that sense, pre-marital sex is okay with me.
Otherwise, I would expect my wife to be a virgin. I think women prefer the same about men too. Khushboo said an intellectual man shouldn't be demanding his wife to be a virgin (if the newspaper reports are true). I can't agree with that.
Shuuro
You got a wonderful blog and good write up, I guess its time to move on from this kushboo thing.
BTW check out my new post on new composer from Hydbad,
Jeevan,
It is not correct to single out dalits for this protest, what ever the catalyst is, this issue engulfed into some tamilians upholding of their moral values and culture. Most important point she raised about safe sex has not taken seriously by general public.
Vinayak,
Nice to see you hear, like to say this for sometime now, i don't agree with you that most of dowry laws are misused but wont say there aren't any husband beaters or harassers among women. Coming to your views on this post, i agree with most of them but calling them fools is unwarranted.
Jo,
Having different views on same subject for different stages of life is hypocrisy, Either you support it or not, you can't say i would before marriage and i wont after the marriage. As you noted, important point is freedom of expression, which has been violated in kushboo's case and these protesters are basing their argument on tamil culture, which is completely absurd.
Ganesh,
Thank you. Nice to learn about new composition, i'll check it out soon.
The fact is here and quite evident pre-marital sex is here and will stay on its only been put under the carpet and as far as i am aware it has been going on for a long long time.What the actress said is a different issue and is her opinion and is entitled to one.Statistics show that abt 40% of youngsters have had Pr-marital sex..wuite clearly 60% are still very virgin and still very olive...and that is where the great actress has got it wrong...being modest 20% will be educated and we as educated people can expect our partners to be virgins...that would mean there are lots of virgin people in india...so whats the fuss abt....its a personal choice.....isint it...
anonymous,
You seem to have missed the contention in this issue, kushboo never said or implied that all or majority of the indian girls are not virgins, therefore i feel that your comment is impertinent to the subject. Anyway, where did you get those stats on pre-marital sex in this country?.
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